Why Did I Become Shy?

If you have ever asked yourself, “Why did I become shy?” then you’re not alone. Shyness is a common feeling that affects many people in the world, even those who are extroverted. It is a normal and sometimes necessary part of life, but can be hard to live with at times.

The initial cause of shyness is unknown, but it may be linked to genetics. Researchers have found that about 30% of children are born with a certain gene, which may make them more likely to be shy in social situations.

Environmental factors also play a significant role in the development of shyness. If you were raised in a home where you were bullied or your parents were not very social, then it’s likely that this would contribute to your shy personality traits.

Whether you are shy or not, it’s important to learn the tools that can help you be more confident and outgoing in social settings.

First, you need to understand your personality and the reasons behind your shyness. This will give you a better understanding of your needs and help you overcome shyness more effectively in the future.

Next, you need to identify your strengths and find ways to use them in social situations. This will help you feel more comfortable in social situations and avoid negative thoughts about yourself that can lead to feelings of shyness.

One of the best ways to identify your strengths is to write down a list of everything that you like about yourself. You’ll be surprised at how much great stuff you have going on in your life that you’re probably forgetting about.

It’s also a good idea to try to remember all the times you did well in a particular situation. This will make you feel more proud of yourself when you’re in a situation where you’re shy or nervous.

Lastly, it’s important to reward yourself for your successes. This will help you feel more motivated to continue your work towards overcoming your shyness.

Re-Script the Narrative Around Your Shyness

The most effective way to overcome your shyness is through cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). This type of psychotherapy helps you change your thought and behavior patterns.

In addition to changing your thoughts, CBT can teach you a few specific techniques that will allow you to overcome your shyness. These are called “social skills.”

Take a look at YouTube videos or TV shows of well-liked people to get an idea of what you need to do to be more socially confident.

Watch how these people interact with other people and see if you can imitate their behaviors. For example, do you keep eye contact when talking with people? If you’re shy, try making more eye contact when talking to other people.

Eventually, you’ll start to feel more comfortable when you’re in social situations and you’ll be able to conquer your shyness without any problems.

You’ll be amazed at how easy it is to make these changes when you put them into practice!