What is Narcissistic Trauma Bonding?
What is Trauma Bonding?
Narcissists often form a trauma bond with their victims in order to keep them in their toxic relationship. They use a combination of intermittent positive reinforcement and harsh criticism to keep their partners in the relationship.
This back and forth between abuse and love bombing creates a perfect environment for trauma bonding to develop. Victims become weaker and more dependent, seeking validation from their narcissists. This fuels the abuser’s ego, leading to further manipulation and control.
They also use gaslighting tactics to confuse and discredit their victims’ views of the situation, which only strengthens their relationship with the narcissist. This cognitive dissonance leads to a victim feeling confused and in need of help.
The narcissist may also blame their partner for things that are not their fault, which reinforces the trauma bond. This is a common behavior in narcissistic relationships and it only grows stronger when it becomes normalized over time.
If you feel as though your narcissist has become abusive or controlling, and you are struggling to find your way out of the relationship, it is a sign that you are in a toxic relationship. It is important to remember that narcissists can manipulate their partners and even friends or family members, so it is imperative to get help for your mental health.
When you’re in a toxic relationship, it is important to listen to your friends and family when they tell you something doesn’t seem right. They’re the ones who know you best, and can spot a problem that you might not notice yourself.
You can recognize the signs of a trauma bond by being aware of your emotions and how you react to difficult situations. If you find yourself constantly hiding your negative feelings and only letting them out when you’re alone, that is a big red flag.
It can be difficult to break free from a trauma bond, but it is possible! You can work on releasing the toxic beliefs and behaviors that have been programmed into your brain that you need to seek love, approval, and security from another person.
Once you do, it will be so clear to you that this is not healthy or true for you. You will feel a strong desire to be free of this unhealthy and toxic relationship and to be the person you were meant to be!
To break the trauma bond, you need to release every single traumatic experience that was embedded in your mind that caused you to subconsciously need to seek approval and love from an outside source. Once you release these old, unhealed traumas, you’ll be able to heal and create the life you deserve!
The sooner you do, the sooner you’ll be on your way to creating a truly amazing, soul-filling, and happy life. During the process, you’ll find yourself vibrating on a level that narcissists can’t resist.
It’s critical to get help, because the longer you stay in this toxic relationship, the more damage it will have on your physical, mental and emotional health. It will take time, patience, and work to make it through the narcissist’s abuse, but the healing will be worth it!