What Drives a Narcissist Ill?
An extreme narcissist’s worst fear is being discovered – either having their dark side exposed publicly, or getting caught lying.
They feel inferior and begin to experience feelings of confusion, envy and contempt towards other individuals who appear to be doing better than them.
An additional factor that drives narcissists mad is when they sense strong personal boundaries that prompt them to question both their sanity and reality.
1. Lack of empathy
One thing that drives narcissists insane is a lack of empathy. Unable to grasp what other people are feeling, these individuals tend to say and do inappropriate things without any regard for how others might perceive it. Additionally, they have difficulty reading nonverbal cues which could seem insensitive at times; those lacking empathy often cannot let go of their own emotions, leading them to take out aggression on other people as a means of venting frustrations.
Likewise, if something you say irks or angers them they could react in kind; even if there was nothing they did to provoke this behavior they will still become upset with you because they cannot comprehend why this makes them upset.
Help them recognize their feelings so they can learn how to be more empathetic – this doesn’t mean that they’ll turn into psychopaths, but at least they will have tools available to stop hurting other people without realizing it.
Other ways you can show empathy are by disagreeing with them, asking questions about their behavior or actions, pointing out any negative facts about them, and calling out any volatile behavior they exhibit. By taking any of these measures, they may realize their rage is inappropriate and should seek professional assistance as soon as possible.
Narcissists are driven to win, and cannot tolerate the idea that someone else might receive recognition for their work or life achievements. When their egos feel threatened by others getting recognized for what they have accomplished, they resort to scapegoating, which involves making another person responsible for their loss or disappointment by making them seem crazy or lying about the facts surrounding a situation.
Narcissists tend to get upset if other people receive more consideration than them at parties and jobs; for instance, when you go without them or get something before them. When this occurs they become incensed because it signals to them that others matter more than them and may lash out in front of other guests; when challenged in a healthy and constructive manner or don’t receive attention as desired from friends or coworkers they become defensive.
People can become jealous and upset if someone else gets engaged or moves into a bigger house before them. They might accuse the event of being faked or that you’re trying to take their spotlight away.
Scapegoating is an issue many narcissists share and typically begins in childhood. Born with the desire to dominate others and no understanding of how to value other people. Furthermore, these individuals often suffer from personality disorders like Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder which contribute to their black-and-white thinking and extreme sense of self-importance.
3. Self-esteem issues
Narcissists often suffer from low self-esteem, which is why they’re always seeking ways to impress or belittle others to feel better about themselves. This is also why narcissists become obsessed with money, power and status; often trying to outdo everyone around them with money and power at any cost, often by being mean or toxic themselves.
Due to their lack of empathy, narcissists lack the capacity to understand the needs of others and empathize with them when they experience difficulty or celebrate when others succeed in doing something they wanted to. Instead, narcissists tend to despise happiness that doesn’t directly relate to them in some way – or is even unrelated altogether!
Narcissists live in an extremely delicate world that’s susceptible to being easily dismantled with just a slight push from anyone – all it takes is one prod to break it all apart! In fear of exposure, they’ll go to any lengths possible in order to maintain control – even if this means gaslighting you!
To drive a narcissist nuts, try convincing them of their behavior as pitiful and that you won’t succumb to their manipulations. Helping them face their insecurities might provide the motivation necessary for change – however it’s important to remember that narcissism is a personality disorder and cannot be treated directly; thus you must instead take control of your mental health by setting firm boundaries around yourself that protect yourself against this person – that way, you’ll be freed up for living your best life sans them!
4. Substance abuse
People living with narcissistic personality disorder frequently struggle with alcohol and drug abuse. Drugs or alcohol may help them mask their insecurities and feel better about themselves; however, this habit can have serious repercussions for home and work relationships as well as legal proceedings or even physical injuries.
People may become dependent on substances, leading to greater risks of relapse when trying to quit. Substance abuse may also contribute to mental health conditions like anxiety and depression; thus if an individual has both conditions simultaneously they should receive treatment for both conditions at once.
Under the influence, narcissists can be extremely dangerous as their behavior becomes more aggressive and their judgment lessened. They often verbally and emotionally abuse their partners, friends, and coworkers while lying, manipulating, deceiving, or becoming violent if their mood shifts suddenly.
As soon as a narcissist is under the influence, the best strategy for dealing with them is to temporarily avoid contact until they sober up. Block their phone numbers, social media accounts and anything else that would allow them to contact you directly; additionally it would be wise to inform their mutual friends not to relay messages from this individual.
5. Destroying their public image
Narcissists often have an idealized vision of how the world should work and other people should behave; when reality doesn’t match up to this script, it can send them spiraling out of control into an explosive narcissistic rage. This may be caused by anything from seeing someone they perceive to be better than them in public (be it celebrity or colleague), receiving criticism of their behavior from you or just watching movies that show them as less successful than themselves.
One effective strategy to drive narcissists mad is to dismantle their public image, whether that means pointing out their weaknesses to others, showing where they don’t belong, and not giving them enough attention they crave. You could also try discrediting their achievements by showing your gratitude towards people who’ve done well; perhaps tell them you plan to attend happy hour with an Instagram influencer from their office, then let them know you plan to attend something similar yourself with another friend that night.
Breaking their narcissistic bubble and showing them that their sense of superiority is false will force them to question how they want to present themselves to the world, prompting a shift in perception that could leave them without access to love and admiration from toxic sources. This could cause extreme distress.
6. Going no contact
Narcissists tend to feel insecure and jealous, so when their self-importance is challenged they can go crazy. This could involve anything from calling out their manipulation tactics or simply not giving them as much attention as other people, to simply disagreeing with or refusing to play their games.
One way to quickly alienate narcissists is to avoid direct interaction, or at least limit it as much as possible. While this can be challenging, doing so can help avoid gaslighting, denial and other manipulative tactics used against you by them.
If you do decide to engage with a narcissist, try your hardest to appear as dull and inactive as possible – this might mean ignoring their calls or texts or leaving your phone on silent when they do call or text you back.
An effective way to irritate a narcissist is to laugh when they praise themselves or boast of their accomplishments, driving them crazy as they depend on this praise to feel good about themselves. You could add in some sarcasm if you really want them mad, though be wary as this could backfire and create more problems than solutions – only try this when needed, for safety’s sake!