Understanding What a Man Wants in a Relationship
At times it can be challenging to understand what men want from relationships. Everyone is different and you must remember this when trying to understand his motivations for wanting them.
He must know you respect him. This means allowing him to try different sexual positions and telling him how much you appreciate everything he does for you.
1. Emotional Maturity
An emotionally mature man can communicate his feelings clearly, without being hurtful towards others, while remaining flexible enough to work out issues with his partner rather than acting like the victim.
Thompson believes emotionally mature people recognize and accept their errors, including mistakes made. They’re able to identify what angers or saddens them and why they act in particular ways; this knowledge helps them make healthier decisions in the future.
“They know when they need some alone time and can compassionately share this without being defensive about it,” notes she. Additionally, they remain open to learning from people with differing viewpoints and opinions; this practice is known as widening perception and shows willingness for their beliefs to evolve over time.
2. Honesty
Honesty is at the core of any successful relationship. Being honest means not just telling the truth, but also not lying or misleading others or keeping anything from your partner that may upset or harm their emotional or mental wellbeing. Furthermore, being truthful means not embellishing stories or telling “white lies” that could hurt his/her feelings.
Being honest is often challenging when you disagree with someone, but failing to express your concerns could result in harboring resentment and eventually withdrawing from the relationship.
No one knows everything that runs through your partner’s mind, so it’s best not to force them into sharing every thought or feeling they have with you. Being honest does not have to mean criticizing your partner; how you present things matters just as much. Be respectful when discussing issues so your partner feels comfortable hearing what’s being said to them.
3. Respect
Men crave respect. They seek admiration and reverence for their strength and wisdom, not childish treatment or diminishment of their achievements. Show that you appreciate his accomplishments by asking for his opinion or appreciating his skills by showing appreciation in any form imaginable – whether that’s asking him what his opinion is, expressing how much you admire him, etc.
He wants to know that you will show him kindness and respect by honoring his feelings, privacy and independence. Don’t read or listen in on personal messages sent or received by him or listening in on conversations he is having with friends over the phone; similarly don’t mock or demean him publicly in front of family and friends.
He doesn’t expect you to sit through chick flicks or mall shopping with him, but he does expect you to show that you respect his interests and personal space. If there are issues between you, engage in open discussion without being rude; respect is at the foundation of a healthy relationship and deserves our consideration.
4. Affection
Affection is a universal love language, and men are no different when it comes to knowing what makes them feel loved. Affection can take many forms depending on your culture – for instance, Europeans often greet each other by kissing cheeks on greeting, while Americans might prefer handshakes or hugs instead.
An intimately in love man will demonstrate his affection in ways that resonate with you. Hugs and holding your hand while out public can be telltale signs that someone cares deeply for you and wants to spend time together.
He’ll likely show his affection by inviting you to visit with his family and close friends – this allows him to share his joy at being part of your life with those closest to him – this gesture shows he’s serious about you and it is often taken as an indicator.
5. Support
Men need someone in their lives who will support them as they pursue their life goals, whether that means getting promoted at work or finishing the marathon. When reaching these milestones, a partner should be there as an encouragement and source of cheering them on.
He wants her to understand she values his opinion and will listen genuinely when he speaks, without expecting them to agree with everything they say; you simply need to respect his opinions as equally valuable.
He needs to know that you will respect his boundaries and privacy, such as not peeking through his messages or calling every hour when he’s with his friends. This gives him confidence that there is enough room in your relationship for him to pursue his interests without feeling as though you’re constantly pushing him back into corners.
6. A Life Outside of the Relationship
Men often prefer women who lead fulfilling lives outside their relationship. He wants to know that you respect his independence and are content in your own life despite him; this shows your sense of self-worth, as it shows he doesn’t provide all your happiness. When men see that your life can exist outside their presence, they’ll feel more like an integral part of it than an all-consuming existence.
Demonstrating that you can be independent will also make him feel more at ease around his friends and social life. He will appreciate if you interact friendly with his guy friends without acting bored while out with them, while remaining civil to female friends as well; this shows maturity in handling disagreements in an appropriate manner.
7. Shared Interests
Men strive to find partners that share their interests, as it forms the cornerstone of a relationship. Sharing experiences such as wine tasting or hiking creates shared rituals that deepen bonds within relationships and strengthen their bonds further.
Notably, interests don’t need to align perfectly for relationships to work successfully, with many couples who share disparate tastes in music, entertainment, religion, politics or other subjects that divide opinion successfully despite having different viewpoints and interests. Diverse interests can actually make your relationship more exciting while encouraging both partners to be open-minded and try new experiences together.
Sharing an interest can strengthen communication skills, as you must rely on each other for support in pursuing it. However, forcing someone else into your pursuits could cause them to feel alienated and insecure about taking part.
8. Communication
Men desire direct and compassionate communication that doesn’t include anger or criticism, so they can share their needs and concerns openly with their partner.
Men appreciate it when their partner takes an interest in their hobbies and passions, including work, friends and family. Showing this kind of consideration shows him that you care deeply for him as an individual.
Feeling supported and loved makes him feel secure in their relationship, as does knowing their partner will never abandon them – something which can be done by assuring him you are committed and not simply playing games with him to provoke jealousy.
Men want the freedom to try something different during sex. Break out of your comfort zone and allow him to take you further, or invite him to try an activity together that you never knew existed!
9. Commitment
Commitment is a potency force, providing people with the power and motivation needed to reach their goals and dreams. Furthermore, commitment allows people to be honest with one another about their feelings – something which may prove challenging but worthwhile in teaching us how to be mature and responsible adults.
Men want to feel secure that their partner loves and supports them for the long term, and one way of showing that love and commitment is by surprising them with unexpected activities such as taking them out to see a movie or going shopping together.
Show that you care by giving them space within the relationship while remaining available to them. This could involve not always being at their side or having access to their private communication channels; having your own life will allow them to feel connected more deeply with you – they might even want to watch chick flicks or play their favorite video game together!
