How to Make a Messy Person Become Nice

People who tend towards tidying tend to focus on keeping things organized. Any items that appear out of place can become an eyesore.

Messy people can often learn how to organize in a sustainable and realistic manner. Here are a few practical tips that could be beneficial.

Make Tidying a Habit

Messy rooms can make life challenging, so finding common ground can be challenging. You might find yourself constantly telling them to clean up, or having high expectations that don’t always meet. In order to coexist peacefully, finding a balance is key and talking through any differences can help create a plan that benefits both parties involved.

An effective way for messy people to become neat is to establish a daily cleaning habit. While this will take time and practice, setting small goals each day like wiping down counters after meals or placing coats away or clearing desks can make a tremendous difference over time. Lifestyle writer Asli Omur suggests using a calendar or notebook to write down three cleaning tasks you want to complete each day as one way of keeping yourself on track with this commitment.

Making it simple for messy people to put away their belongings can also be an effective way of encouraging orderliness in the home, saving both you and your children the hassle of clutter-chasing and making your living environment feel more inviting and relaxing. Make sure each room offers enough storage space so that everyone has their own place for everything; keep frequently used items within reach; designate a special spot for keys, bags and other misplaced objects during the day if they seem lost!

When cleaning and tidying, don’t focus on how much needs to be done or how quickly. Make it part of your daily routine and strive to improve both time and speed over time – you might be amazed how quickly this becomes part of your life, making homekeeping enjoyable!

Remind them that messy people may need help organizing their thoughts and focusing better, using clutter as an outlet. By acknowledging this fact, they may find better methods of relieving stress and anxiety that don’t involve disordered habits.

Change Your Self-Image

Messiness may simply be part of someone’s personality and can’t be changed easily. So instead of viewing their messiness as something to correct, try accepting that being messy is simply their way, making an effort not to let their messy ways drive you nuts. And if you find yourself being messy yourself, try remembering that clean people don’t always get annoyed when entering rooms that don’t meet their standard for cleanliness – they simply notice this when entering living spaces that could use more attention being put towards keeping it tidy!

As well as learning not to judge others on their messy ways, it’s also crucial that you work on improving your own self-image. If you find yourself being messy often, beating yourself up may only compound matters and create more unnecessary feelings of futility – leading you to stop cleaning because you no longer believe you can! This cycle only makes things worse!

Instead, extend some kindness and focus on making small adjustments that will reduce your messy habits over time. For instance, if it takes you an hour to get dressed each morning due to clothing piling up everywhere, start by reorganizing your closet so that it becomes easier for you to locate what you need faster – this will eventually make dressing quicker each morning and may help lower overall clutter levels as a result.

Retraining your brain to prioritize is another essential step towards better productivity. A useful strategy may be making a list of all of the tasks that must be accomplished first and then organizing your space so they are closer to hand – this way you can save tasks that don’t require immediate attention until later when your capacity for handling them increases.

Not every disorganized individual can become organized instantly; some struggle for years until their mess finally disappears entirely, yet with patience and self-compassion it is possible for even the messiest individual to become more organized and create a cleaner living environment.


Unless there’s been an extreme purge, an unorganized closet, messy office files and other forms of clutter won’t likely become clean and organized on its own. A mess often represents emotional or mental distress and it may be hard to get organized without dealing with those issues directly.

Solution: Focus on what matters and let go of everything else. Prioritize those things essential to your life and work, like paying bills on time. Give yourself flexibility with respect to lesser priorities like organizing movie collections or school projects; this will free up valuable brain power for things that matter while creating space in your mind for cleaning.

Deciding which items to keep and which to discard requires time, energy, and practice. For added support on this journey, having an organized friend or family member assist can be very useful; they can offer guidance, support, establish new habits, and hold you accountable to your goals. Just be sure that they support your goals while being honest about both strengths and weaknesses in you as an individual.

If you’re not yet ready to enlist the assistance of friends and family members, start by identifying areas in your home and workplace that cause the most anxiety or frustration – such as an overwhelming mail pile, disorganized fridge or overstuffed backpack or shoebox. Start small by selecting one problem area at a time using the Clean Purge Organize method.

As you approach each area, set aside time for organizing things back where they belong and consider taking “before” photos of every room you work on as you make changes. This will serve as a constant reminder of how fulfilling it feels to make a change and serve as a strong motivation to maintain orderly spaces. In addition, try not to keep unnecessary sentimental items; having one box at home and one folder on your desk may be acceptable but don’t allow this accumulation of mementoes turn into more clutter!

Make Positive Associations

One way to make cleaning simpler is to change your associations with it, for instance viewing it less as a chore and more as an enjoyable therapeutic activity. To assist this transformation process, try listening to some uplifting music or an audiobook while cleaning.

If you find that items tend to accumulate in one area, remove any physical barriers encouraging this behavior. For instance, if keys tend to scatter across the kitchen table, place them on a key hook instead. Labelling items also makes them easier to recognize after use and encourages their proper disposal; just be wary of labeling a bin as “miscellaneous” since that might encourage keeping random things there instead of finding homes for them!

One way to break free from associations between tidying and clean living is surrounding yourself with neat people. Doing this may encourage you to adopt their habits and become tidier yourself – especially if the individuals involved have strong interpersonal connections that provide useful tips and tricks that make becoming tidier less painful; this may especially prove effective if your living space has a messy partner who makes the task even harder for both of you!