As part of your bridal party selection, choosing who will join your celebration can be both thrilling and overwhelming. In the past, almost all bridesmaids at western weddings were unmarried women; now married women may also participate as bridesmaids.
Matron of Honor will take part in helping the bride find her dress, offering toasts at receptions, signing the marriage license and managing veil or bouquet arrangements.
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What is a bridesmaid?
Bridesmaids are close friends or relatives of the bride whom she asks to assist with her wedding plans. This may involve performing small tasks such as addressing invitations and picking up flowers for receptions; or joining her while shopping for wedding gowns (and providing advice if asked). On wedding day itself, they usually prepare with other bridesmaids before joining their friend at her hotel room/home before travelling together to the ceremony location.
On the wedding day, her duties include helping the bride with any last-minute tasks such as fixing stray hairs or donning her veil. She may also be asked to hold onto flowers, prayer books and trains when necessary and secure them during ceremonies and receptions; she may be trusted with guarding the groom’s wedding ring until after it has been placed at her disposal, providing toasts or speeches at receptions or directing guests where to sit at venues; serving cake at receptions may also fall under this responsibility.
The main bridesmaid, also referred to as maid of honor or matron of honor, should ideally be either unmarried herself or has an unmarried partner; but can be anyone really close to the bride. She acts as the primary support person for the bride; typically serving as either her best friend or sister and offering their advice when necessary. In addition, maid of honours often organise any bridal showers, hen parties or other celebrations requested by brides – which provides them with an ideal opportunity to show them just how much their friendship means!
What is a maid of honor?
A maid of honor (or matron of honor for married brides) is typically an important relative or confidante whom the bride trusts, who serves an integral role in organizing pre-wedding events like bridal showers, going dress shopping with her and helping get ready on her wedding day. They may also write and deliver toasts during reception dinner. In addition, she may serve as “point person” for all bridesmaids ensuring they have dresses they need and RSVP on time, arrange travel plans with the room block and much more!
At one time, most western weddings had only unmarried women serving as bridesmaids; it wasn’t until recently that married women were permitted to be bridesmaids as well. When this is the case, the bride may opt to refer to her matron of honor instead of maid of honor to avoid confusion with an unmarried friend; therefore it is essential that discussions take place regarding expectations between all involved parties involved in order to meet these.
Being part of a large bridal party can be particularly taxing. To keep everyone organized and on schedule, try organizing a group chat, email thread or project management tool – some brides even entrust their MOH with overseeing everything to ensure everything runs smoothly.
On wedding day, a matron of honor will assist the bride with getting dressed, accompany her to and from the ceremony and reception venue, sign the marriage license as witness, hold her bouquet during the ceremony and usually lead new guest mingling efforts at receptions.
There is no formal rule as to the ideal number of bridesmaids a bride should choose; rather, her choice should depend on what’s most comfortable for her. She might opt for two maids of honor instead of just one; alternatively she might prefer having just a matron of honor and no bridesmaids at all. Whatever decision is made must reflect what’s right for the bride herself so as not to compromise her comfort levels when making this important choice.
What is a best man?
A best man is one of the groom’s closest supporters, whether married or single. Traditionally, this position falls to either his brother or closest friend of the groom. They play an essential role in planning bachelor parties and formalwear fittings for groomsmen as well as orchestrating toasts at rehearsal dinners and wedding receptions; carrying rings for safekeeping until ceremony day as well as making sure officiant fees are covered properly afterward are all duties for which best men may be called upon to assist.
As guests arrive at the venue, he stands with the groom to greet guests and collect any messages for reading during speeches. Because most guests know each other already, he is also often responsible for helping introduce guests. When dancing commences, he usually dances alongside maid of honor (if there is one), encouraging all guests to join her on the dance floor.
Although not expected to perform as many administrative duties, a best man can still assist with wedding tasks such as buying wedding gifts, gathering quotes from entertainment suppliers and writing the groom speech. He’s also an invaluable source of advice should any pre-wedding anxiety arises.
Whenever there is a ring bearer, the best man assists him in finding an appropriate location to secure and store the wedding rings safely on his pillow as he lines up for walking down the aisle, before collecting them when it is time for exchange of rings. He should also ensure any formalwear rented is returned on the day after the wedding.
At the end of the night, the best man is responsible for taking care of escorting the bride to her car and helping arrange transportation so she and her new husband can head straight off for their honeymoon. He may also be required to receive any gifts left behind by guests.
What is a groomsman?
One wedding involves many intricate details that must come together perfectly for its celebration to be unforgettable and magical. Although bride and groom typically split certain responsibilities between themselves, certain tasks must still be shared: for instance, selecting bridesmaids and maid of honor (or matron of honor if married), as well as hosting and planning the bridal shower and providing attendant thank-you gifts are largely managed by the bride while her attendants receive thanks-you gifts from their attendants; similarly, groom selects groomsmen and best man as well as gathering his wedding party together before orchestrating its execution, paying for and reserving block hotel rooms for out-of-town guests and sending thank-you notes are all tasks carried out by him too.
A groomsman is typically an important friend or relative of the groom who provides support during wedding planning, rehearsal dinner attendance, ceremony participation and decorations set-up duties at their respective ceremonies and post-ceremony escorting. After each ceremony he should assist with cleaning up of venue as well as gift packing/clean up at couple’s hotel after ceremony is finished; additionally out-of-town guests at receptions should expect that transportation services may also be offered upon request.
Groomsmen should assist the Maid of Honor with caring for and supervising any junior attendants such as flower girls. In addition, groomsmen might be asked to act as go-betweens between guests who have queries and the couple during receptions or even stand up during ceremonies and deliver remarks about themselves or say a few words themselves.
At a reception, groomsmen should be engaging and amicable while introducing his bridesmaid counterpart. He should chatter casually while encouraging everyone to dance. In addition, they should answer any questions from guests regarding where restrooms or bars can be found at the venue and be on hand at the end of the night to clear away debris as well as provide rides for out-of-town guests that require rides home.